A sure-fire way to hurt your marriage is to engage in stonewalling. This is the final horseman that Gottman uses as a predictor for divorce. Stonewalling is when we build a wall and refuse to let others inside. We often do this by making comments such as “I don’t want to talk about it; Enough,” or “End of story.” When we cut others off and…
A couple of months ago I began writing about the four horsemen that threaten to destroy marriages according to researcher, John Gottman. Life has been so busy that my good intentions of doing this 4-part series in a month was delayed. The third “horseman” that wants to kill your marriage is defensiveness. We are all guilty of this one. “It’s not my fault.” A wife…
Fall is my favorite time of year for hiking. I love seeing all the colors on the trees as well as the cooler temperatures. It is the best time for climbing a mountain — not too hot and not too cold. Many times I stand at the bottom of a mountain and wonder if I can ever make it to the top. Depending on the…
Last month I began to blog about the 4 horsemen that seek to destroy marriages. John Gottman identified the four horsemen and has been able to use his theory to predict divorce among couples he counsels. The first of the horsemen was criticism and you can read more about it by clicking here. The second horseman, and perhaps the most dangerous, is contempt. Contempt is…
I was recently touched by a friend’s raw response to Robin Williams suicide. Next week is Suicide Prevention Week and the best thing we can do to prevent suicide is to share our story and invest our lives in others. Well, Lindsey Brackett is doing just that. I encourage you to read her post by clicking here. Like Lindsey, too many Christians believe that if…
Today is my 30th day going sugar free! In the past month I’ve eaten no sugar and very, very little carbohydrates. When I started I wondered how I’d ever survive. Now that the days have passed, I don’t even miss it. When I think of celebrating, I want to continue on this journey. Not only do I feel better physically than I have in a…